"It’s the social economic version of “just stop being depressed”"
thats exactly what bothers me about “forget money follow your dreams” like lol ok poor people just stop being poor and do things start a business
just acknowledge we live in a capitalist society and that following a dream isn’t achievable for everyone like. be real. i’m a positive person but i’m not full of illusions about how things work.
Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.
Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.
Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.
Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.
Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.
Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,
Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.
Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.
Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.
Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.
Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.
Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.
Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.
Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.
Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.
A young black girl decided to not bleach her skin after seeing the success of Lupita Nyong’o.
Lupita Nyong’o was inspired to be an actress after seeing Oprah Winfrey and Whoopi Goldberg in The Color Purple.
Whoopi Goldberg realized she could BE an actress after seeing Nichelle Nichols in Star Trek
I have never seen a cis person get bullied for being cis, but I have seen plenty of cis people get called out for being assholes and then claim they’re being bullied for being cis.
The concern for overly exposed young bodies may be well-intentioned. With society fetishizing girls at younger and younger ages, girls are instructed to self-objectify and see themselves as sexual objects, something to be looked at. A laundry list of problems can come from obsessing over one’s appearance: eating disorders, depression, low self-worth. Who wouldn’t want to spare her daughter from these struggles?
But these dress codes fall short of being legitimately helpful. What we fail to consider when enforcing restrictions on skirt-length and the tightness of pants is the girls themselves—not just their clothes, but their thoughts, emotions, budding sexuality and self-image.
Instead, these restrictions are executed with distracted boys in mind, casting girls as inherent sexual threats needing to be tamed. Dress restrictions in schools contribute to the very problem they aim to solve: the objectification of young girls. When you tell a girl what to wear (or force her to cover up with an oversized T-shirt), you control her body. When you control a girl’s body—even if it is ostensibly for her “own good”—you take away her agency. You tell her that her body is not her own.
When you deem a girl’s dress “inappropriate,” you’re also telling her, “Because your body may distract boys, your body is inappropriate. Cover it up.” You recontextualize her body; she now exists through the male gaze.”
if all cis women in hollywood were replaced by men and cis women were never recognised or even had the chance to represent themselves and other cis women it would be immediately seen as an extremely important feminist issue
so why aren’t we seeing the exact same thing that’s happening to trans women as what it is, an extremely important feminist issue
Lately, I’ve been finding among people in high school, when it comes to heterosexual girls getting drunk and making out with other girls at parties, or girls fooling around with their friends, if ever those girls are in a relationship, nobody ever considers that to be cheating or ever calls them out on being unfaithful to the person they’re dating. That shit bothers me to absolutely no end, because it’s incredibly sexist and homophobic.
I have heard too many stories about boyfriends watching their girlfriends get drunk and make out with other girls at parties without even batting an eye. It’s absolutely disgusting, because the fact that that isn’t considered cheating or wrong contributes to the idea that lesbians/lesbian couples are there to satisfy men’s desires/fetishes. Lesbians are obviously already ridiculously fetishized in the media, as lesbian couples in movies and TV shows, who are quite typically feminine lipstick lesbians, never seem to fail to hold the typical white, cis-gendered, skinny standard of beauty for women. There is absolutely nothing wrong with fitting into that category of lesbian, but it’s a very specific type of person, which simply does not represent the entire lesbian population. It all contributes to the idea that lesbians are there for men’s satisfaction. The idea that a woman isn’t being unfaithful if she does something with another woman, it also is saying that lesbian relationships aren’t legitimate relationships. So not only is this concept dehumanizing to women in general, it’s also specifically dehumanizing to lesbians.
And of course, there’s always the excuse that “it’s okay, because I’m not attracted to other women”. Even if a woman cheats with a man who she has no emotional connection with or does not feel sexually attracted to, is that still considered cheating? Of course. So why is it not considered cheating, even if a woman is not emotionally connected to and/or sexually attracted to another woman?